Nearly four in ten say the phrase feels ‘awkward’ for them to say, whilst three in ten are ’embarrassed’ to express themselves
Under half (43 percent) of Brits say “I love you” to their partners every day, according to a survey.
Research of 2,000 adults found 17 percent say the three special words to their other half just once a week.
But this is still more than the average adult tells their parents, siblings, and even their children, that they love them.
Four in ten (39 percent) keep their feelings bottled up because it “feels awkward” for them to say, while 33 percent claim their “families aren’t very open with affection”.
Nearly a third (30 percent) are “embarrassed” to express themselves – but despite this, 66 percent will say “I love you”, but only to certain people.
And a resounding 69 percent claim that hearing the phrase is a sure-fire way to brighten up their day.
How often do you say those three little words? Let us know in the comments below
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However, four in ten prefer to demonstrate their love with an action or gift, rather than saying the three magic words.
Anna Blackburn, managing director at jeweller Beaverbrooks, which commissioned the research, said: “Telling someone that you love them is such a special moment and one to be cherished, no matter how often you hear it.
“But it seems many people have a difficult time telling friends, family – and even their own partners – that they love them.
“There are so many different ways to express how you’re feeling, and sometimes a simple action or gesture can be a great way to show someone you care when you just can’t find the words.”
The study found 55 percent sometimes struggle to say or convey how much they care about someone.
And when it comes to the phrases Brits find most difficult to express, “I love you” was at the top (28 percent), followed by “I’m sorry” (21 percent) and “please forgive me”.
When it comes to expressing love for their nearest and dearest, 26 percent said that just because they don’t say it, doesn’t mean they don’t feel it.
Other ways people show they care, rather than using words, include giving cuddles (38 percent), trying to make them laugh (33 percent) and buying them gifts like jewellery (18 percent).
One in five, meanwhile, show their love by sitting through TV shows they really don’t like – but they know the other person does.
Another 37 percent feel showing gratitude for everything their loved ones do is a way of expressing they care, while 32 percent said they would simply cook a special meal, or ask them how their day was.
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Of those who are comfortable saying “I love you”, 32 percent claim they didn’t really hear it themselves when they were younger – so they want to make up for it now.
Another four in ten feel it’s more important to verbally express their love for their nearest and dearest since the pandemic.
Nearly two-thirds (65 percent), however, feel the phrase “I love you” loses its meaning if it’s spoken too often, according to the OnePoll figures.
Anna Blackburn added: “Our research shows that people really do express their love in all kinds of different ways – and saying it out loud is just one of them.
“When you are comfortable with your loved ones, actions can often speak louder than words – and it’s the things you do that demonstrate how you truly feel.
“With Christmas around the corner, gifts are a great way for people to show love and affection for one another – something personal and sentimental for when you just can’t find the words!”
To help spread love this Christmas, the family-owned jeweller is giving away £1,000 worth of jewellery for anyone struggling to find the words to show a loved one they care.
Tongue-tied Brits should visit here before 5pm on December 8, and explain in 100 words or less how they express their love to a partner, family member or friend.
TOP 30 NON-VERBAL WAYS BRITS SHOW LOVE FOR EACH OTHER:
- Simply saying thank you for all they do for you
- Cheering them up if you know they’re a bit down about something
- Trying to make them laugh
- Always asking them how their day was
- Cooking them their favourite meal
- Always buying them something you know they’ll like in the food shop
- Turning a blind eye when they’re a bit grumpy
- Checking in on them throughout the day to see how they are doing
- Arranging a nice day out
- Giving them lots of compliments
- Forgiving them when they do something wrong
- Offering to do something they like, but you don’t
- Encouraging them to pursue their own interests and hobbies
- Doing jobs around the house that they won’t want to do
- Listening to their music or watching their favourite TV shows, even if you don’t like them
- Buying them a gift e.g. a piece of jewellery
- Waking them up with a cup of tea/coffee/hot chocolate in bed
- Baking them their favourite cake
- Surprising them with something like a holiday/a romantic picnic or walk
- Putting the bins out
- Giving them massages
- Running them a bath after a hard day
- Popping surprise notes in their lunchbox for work
- Liking their social media posts
- Staring into their eyes
- Singing them funny songs
- Writing down how you feel about them
- Publicly declaring your affection for them on social media
TOP 10 PHRASES BRITS FIND THE HARDEST TO SAY:
- I love you
- I’m sorry
- Please forgive me
- I want to be with you
- I care about you
- Will you move in with me?
- I’m proud of you
- Can we make it official/exclusive?
- I’m sorry for working too much