The Mirror’s agony aunt, Coleen Nolan, advises a lady who thinks she married too shortly and is now having doubts about her relationship. She says her marriage looks like ‘an enormous disappointment’
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I’ve been married for 4 years and dated my husband for a yr earlier than we tied the knot. I had no doubts in any respect about marrying him – we appeared to be the proper match and it felt very passionate and thrilling on the time.
However, because the months and years have gone on, I’ve began to query whether or not I did the correct factor and that maybe we rushed into marriage too shortly.
We’re truly very completely different individuals and, I’m sorry to say, he’s very boring. I’m a really go-getting individual and I’m at all times attempting to push us to strive new issues and simply get pleasure from life a bit extra, however he hates breaking out of his consolation zone.
To be frank, the entire marriage looks like an enormous disappointment.
I’ve just lately met one other man I actually clicked with and discover him so enticing. We haven’t slept collectively and even admitted how we really feel (he’s married too), however there’s unimaginable chemistry between us.
He’s been away for a few weeks along with his household and I’ve actually missed him, to the purpose the place I’m contemplating telling him how I really feel.
I may actually do with some recommendation.
What recommendation would you give to this reader? Have your say within the remark part
You sound bored and I feel the way in which you are feeling about this man in all probability has quite a bit to do with what he represents to you, which is ardour and pleasure – principally, what’s lacking in your marriage.
You don’t want me to level out the apparent, however I’ll do it anyway – you’re each married and it appears like he additionally has youngsters, so beginning one thing is a really huge deal.
Before you do something with this man – or anybody else for that matter – give some correct thought to your marriage. Things aren’t working, however is it actually simply all the way down to your husband? Why aren’t you shut any extra? Have you stopped speaking with one another? Can you discover a approach again to capturing the way you felt whenever you first bought collectively?
You liked him and fancied him sufficient to marry him solely 4 years in the past and had completely no doubts whenever you walked down the aisle.
So, I might put some effort into your marriage earlier than falling by the wayside and it’s important to begin by being sincere along with your husband.