I’m worried about my friend because I think she’s being taken for a ride by a married man she works with. He’s only been married for a couple of years, but regularly says stuff to my friend like, “My wife is getting on my nerves” and “I shouldn’t have married her” and “You and me should be together”.
She hasn’t slept with him yet, thank goodness, but she’s falling for him and I think she has deeper feelings for him than she’s willing to admit to me.
I haven’t held back when it comes to telling her my opinion of this guy. I’ve told her I think he’s a love rat, a player and a liar – not to mention a potential cheat – and that she’d be mad to get mixed up with someone like him, but I’m not sure she’s listening to me.
I think she’s falling for his BS and believes his cheesy come-ons.
She’s a young, gorgeous woman who has never struggled for attention from men and she could do so much better than this loser.
How can I talk some sense into her before it’s too late? I don’t want to see her get hurt.
I’m not sure you can talk sense into her because you’ve tried and you’ve said all the things I would have said to her.
You could try to make her see the kind of person she might end up with – a person who could betray his wife so easily.
If he can show so little respect for her, he can treat your friend in the same way. In fact, she might not be the only one he’s trying it on with. It sounds to me like this is a huge ego trip for him – he wants to know he can do it and get away with it.
Your friend should put him on the spot and say, “OK, if you want to be with me, there’s no chance while you’re married, so go home and sort that out and then we can talk”.
I know it’s hard when your heart melts for someone, but the kinds of things this guy is saying don’t even seem real – they’re such cliches.
Unfortunately, she might have to find out for herself what he’s really like, so make sure you’re around with a shoulder to cry on and then don’t judge her for her mistake.